Tag Archives: loss

Nostalgia

Posted on February 25, 2019 by daughter3

On my way to the Hebrew Home, walking up Palisade Avenue from the Metro-North train station, rain puddles trickling down the hill, I thought, inextricably, “I’m really going to miss this.” I mean, I’m going to miss these days, more … Continue reading →

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Being There

Posted on September 14, 2016 by daughter3

“Is my butt bigger than that girl’s butt?” my mom asked, pointing at a passing woman. We were in the Hebrew Home sculpture garden, celebrating Grandparents Day with a couple hundred residents and guests. I almost knocked us both over … Continue reading →

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Three Husbands

Posted on February 25, 2016 by daughter3

Mom is sitting at her table across from Donald, and they’re smiling at each other. When she sees me, she beams. “Hi Donald,” I say, as I lean over to kiss my mom. “Is that his name?” she asks. “I’m … Continue reading →

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Music

Posted on April 22, 2015 by daughter3

My mom is sad. I arrive to find her lying on her bed, weeping. “I just want to die,” she says between sobs. “What is happening to me?” Kenneth is almost completely nonfunctional. He’s no real companion for her anymore. … Continue reading →

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For Mom, what once was

Posted on April 2, 2015 by daughter3

As my mom moves ahead with Alzheimer’s, I find myself missing some of the earlier stages, when she still had some sense of who she was and some memory of her past life. Many of those days were incredibly painful, … Continue reading →

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What My Mom’s Alzheimer’s Disease is Teaching Me about Life

Posted on March 16, 2015 by daughter3

Seven things I know today that I didn’t know before my mom got Alzheimer’s. Continue reading →

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Winning and Losing

Posted on September 15, 2014 by daughter3

My mom and I had a good summer. I spent the long days after work meeting friends for dinner, visiting museums, going to outdoor concerts. My mom gradually, but increasingly, shed the worries that had burdened her all of her … Continue reading →

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The First Time

Posted on June 11, 2014 by daughter3

“You’ve never been here before!” my mom exclaims as we head down the hallway of the dementia unit where she lives. She’s talking like she’s excited to show me the place for the first time (or more likely, thrilled to … Continue reading →

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Nursing Homes

Posted on August 14, 2013 by daughter3

Finding a nursing home for my mom is proving to be one of the most difficult things I’ve ever had to do. It’s not even because of all the bureaucratic bullshit I have to face, like getting her assessed, applying … Continue reading →

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