Category Archives: Alzheimer’s

Time

“I want to keep you forever,” my mom says, holding my hand and lifting it to her heart. We’re walking the corridors of the Hebrew Home, having just visited the bird cage, on our way to see the fish tank. … Continue reading

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A Terrible Vacation

My mom is having a horrible time at the Hebrew Hotel on the Hudson. She says she’s never coming back to this place again, at least not by herself. She can’t wait to get home, which is unusual, because she … Continue reading

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She can’t understand

“You’ve been so good to me for so long; I just can’t believe you would do this to me,” my mom says. “You don’t love me.” When I reach over to offer comfort, she doesn’t want me to touch her. … Continue reading

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A Mess

Ring! Ring! “Hi Mom! How are you?” “Well, not so good. It’s all such a mess,” she says. “What is?” “I don’t know … I can’t explain it.” She recommends I talk to Phyllis, her roommate. “She’s having a little … Continue reading

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Home

Ring! Ring! “Hello?” “Hi, Mom! How are you doing?” “Oh, not so good.” “Why?” “I don’t know what to do.” “About what?” “I was thinking I might go home tomorrow.” “Oh?” “But then I was thinking … when are you … Continue reading

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My mom is so lonely

“You’re staying overnight, right?” my mom asks. I shake my head no, for the fifth time. I just got here an hour ago, and that’s all she can talk about. My mom wants nothing more than to go to bed … Continue reading

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My mom cares about my feelings

“What’s wrong?” my mom asks. “You sound sad.” “I’m fine,” I say. “But you don’t sound fine,” she says. “Ok, I guess I am a little sad,” I say. “Why?” she asks. “I don’t know,” I say, because I’m not … Continue reading

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Are you a boy or a girl?

“Are you a boy or a girl?” my mom whispers into the phone, afraid her roommate might hear her question. “A girl,” I say. “You ARE?” she asks, as if she can’t believe it, as if it’s deeply upsetting for … Continue reading

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Nursing Homes

Finding a nursing home for my mom is proving to be one of the most difficult things I’ve ever had to do. It’s not even because of all the bureaucratic bullshit I have to face, like getting her assessed, applying … Continue reading

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Living in Alzheimer’s world

“What day is it tomorrow?” Mom asks. “Saturday,” I reply. “Oh, good. That means I don’t have to go to work.” Hmmm. People have been telling me I shouldn’t correct my mom when she says something that’s not real. “Live … Continue reading

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